Establishing and maintaining an incorruptible state of sanity during the life journey can sometimes involve parsing the dynamics of family. Unsatisfactory effects to the psyche can result from the ill-intents of one family member toward another member of that same family. The consequential mental flotsam creates a challenge that can either be an impasse or a stepping stone. The individual who evolves beyond the adverse family dynamic will have grown to a state of holding family members in proper perspective. All things, occasions and opportunities that one encounters in life can be situations and circumstances from which they can learn and develop.
This world, meant to be a haven, is easily confounded when those with whom one shares common ancestry do not support one’s best interests. People come into the world as youngsters. The new soul is dependent upon and beholden to those to who they are closest, in distance and in relationship. The child typically is in a nurturing environment, sometimes not. As the child ages, say from preschool age to pre-adolescent, a deterioration in parent-child interpersonal dynamic may ensue. To the extent that mothers experience a steeper decline in interparental relationship satisfaction over time, children developed internalizing symptoms at a faster rate. Further, symptoms escalated at a faster rate to the extent that the negative quality of mother-child relationship quality increased (greater maternal power assertion) and the positive quality of mother-child relationship decreased (less warmth and positive reciprocity).
A solid sense of well being can be easily destabilized from having experienced subterfuge from a family member. Signs may present over time as the individual ages but they may become assimilated as ordinary or ‘run of the mill’. The individual might be fully functioning. The Uranian Awakening may began as a consequence of a noticeable slight or comment from someone close. This occurrence may persist with some regularity but still dismissed. The familial bonds are not easily wrested from the psyche. Yet, the individual, if they begin to engage in self-examination, could discover, for themselves that the family is not the most nurturing of environments. This awakening can also occur due to a more abrupt infraction. This could cause an individual to seriously question their own concept of self.
The individual is mentally put into a position succumb to inflicted familial ostracization and trauma or to embrace their own self worth. To be reared in a non-supportive family environment can engender grave effects upon an individual. One the extreme side, studies show that people exposed to major psychological stressors in early life exhibit elevated rates of morbidity and mortality from chronic diseases of aging. The subconsciously subsumed pains and hurts can indeed be deleterious. However, the individual has the ability to counteract these psycho-physiological malefic processes. They can realize that they themselves are the source of their internal well being. This discovered perception can lead full acceptance and appreciation of self.
The healing of self to wholeness can truly begin when the individual realizes their own worth and internal fortitude. This is a tall order . . . it requires that one journey toward a more positive self-concept. The individual can confidently begin healing as they develop, more completely, in personal integrity. One must recognize the impact and not be overly desirous of finding a ‘root cause. A cause may be blatantly apparent or it may be shrouded in effects that have long since passed. Disavowing any and all toxicities will help in setting up personal boundaries. Focusing on personal actions will help with accepting and expressing personal feeling. If the option is available, and if necessary, seek professional assistance.
The earth realm is a school that one traverses as they learn from external stimuli about their inner world. The individual is taught about the external world from an early age. One learns about what to touch, what is ugly, what is acceptable, who to love, when to be excited, why crossing the street is dangerous, etc . . . Cognizing the internal landscape is the murky part of life on earth. One’s elders have not fully learn to embrace ‘who they are’ as people. The task of teaching that skill to others is a major task. Easier to pass on their judgements, fears, apprehensions and misgivings. Mayhaps, in an effort to steer the child in a more acceptable direction or to disharmoniously inflict those qualities upon a relative. In either case, there is disharmony within the family dynamic.
Travelling through life can be disruptive in light of adverse family dynamics. One’s mental fortitude can be sidetracked because of familial infighting and bickering. The individual has the option to choose either to free themselves of the madness or to allow the constant drain on their energy to continue. To release the madness and embrace self is the major step toward establishing a sense of clarity and creating necessary and beneficial boundaries. Allow self to learn from all things encountered in life; every moment is a teachable moment.
Unburden the heart. Journey forth with gusto and enthusiasm.
Establishing and maintaining an incorruptible state of sanity during the life journey can sometimes involve parsing the dynamics of family. Unsatisfactory effects to the psyche can result from the ill-intents of one family member toward another member of that same family. The consequential mental flotsam creates a challenge that can either be an impasse or a stepping stone. The individual who evolves beyond the adverse family dynamic will have grown to a state of holding family members in proper perspective. All things, occasions and opportunities that one encounters in life can be situations and circumstances from which they can learn and develop.
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