Attachment can bring about feelings of angst, anxiety, or depression resulting from ideas, desires, and probable occurrences that exist in an unfulfilled status. The coming together of planned events the does not always line up with expectations. Making plans on based on expressions of intent will lead one to experience feelings of loss imagined. To forgo expectations is to be unburdened from sensations of disappointment. One should avoid conversations about events that have yet to materialize. Be in the moment: let intentions and events unfold as they may.
The material world promotes situations that give rise to unmet expectations. People imagine these proposed situations and envision what could transpire. Sometimes, these plans may or may not occur, based on circumstances. The degree of expectation or attachment that is placed on expected outcomes is directly and inversely related to what actually happens. Expecting good, getting good, . . . that is great. Expecting good, getting bad, . . . not so great.
Unfulfilled expectations can occur due to plans having become stalled. The best of intentions sometimes sometimes remain as just good intentions. There is little (read as nothing) that can be done to change what is fated to transpire. The most useful recourse for an unexpected turn of events is to have an alternate plan on hand. Doing so will possibly have a mitigating effect on any adverse response / reaction to the plans not being realized. The possibility having avoided something amiss happening is aspect of plans having gone awry.
One can hope that plans are full proof. Yet, people attach to hope based, not upon actualization but, upon plans having ‘yet to occur’. It is like planning on having fowl for dinner when those fowl are still in the wild. Many plans are not always finalized. However, the majority of them occur as intended. It is good to formulate plans. Much of human endeavor is based on plans. Hope can carry one over the expanse of ‘what may occur’ to the shore of actualized plans / contentment. Contentment is a state that can facilitate minimal feeling of disappointment.
There is benefit in overcoming the tendency to attach to ‘plans’ that have yet to be realized, yet to be finalized. Attachment can be a weight that functions to keep the individual fixated on ‘that outcome’. In a sense. that is a positive aspect of attachment. It is easier to exhibit an optimistic outlook and be generally happy when one is expecting something . . . . specific . . . . to happen. To let go of that fixation is be encumbered only as much as one likes. One takes control of their inner self.
Releasing from attachment allows one to consciously and conscientiously navigate as situations dictate. The capacity to effortlessly move through life is linked to how much one is hindered by thoughts, concepts, and ideas. Identification with internalized mental restrictions is a conundrum. The sense of ‘self’ (LOL) is entangled with these restrictive thoughts, with these hinderances, with these ‘attachments’. That is where the difficulty resides. Releasing (from) attachments provides the power to experience and explore ‘freely’. However, this amount of freedom can be disconcerting . . . . Exercising and internalizing ‘freedom’ implies, no, mandates and is supportive of the process of relearning.
Avoid idle conversations about what could transpire as they will set the stage for attachment(s) to flourish. Language is key to framing reality. The language that one utilizes, that one employs to frame (their) hope, fears, intentions becomes entrenched within the psyche. Dissociation from their mental grasping can facilitate the dissipation of attachment. The unconscious conversations in which one engages crystalize into how a certain reality is perceived. Isaiah 55:11 (KJV) so shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.
Offers and promises are often extended to people. It is not necessary to view it with disdain. One can just accept the statement and move on with their day. Undue emotional stress can be avoided by not attaching any expectation to the offer. It will (or it will not) happen. In either case, making minimal investment in the outcome will be advantageous to the overall outlook of an individual. No stress, no strain, just go with the flow . . . . . . Release from attachment . . . be free.
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